you be sleeping with the enemy?
With Valentine's Day coming up soon,
it seems timely to discuss the darker side of love. Here's
the inside scoop from Houston-based Private Investigator
Lowell Abrams of
AllState Investigations/Texas on
"How To Catch A
Cheating Spouse [or
a little earlier than expected: Then
hit the re-dial button on all the phones. You may not be the
only one surprised by who answers the other end of the phone.
significant other have a cell phone? The
same re-dial feature comes in handy here, too.
Phones, Part II: Most of
them have a history of the last 10 phone calls dialed. Hmmmm...might
be worth reviewing sometime when the other person's in the
shower or indisposed.....
Phones/Part III: Does
your spouse have one? Why not? Don't you care about their
safety? Then get 'em one...then make sure you have the bills
[or copies of the bills] sent to you so you can peruse the
"calls made" list. Make sure you specify with the
cell phone company that you want a bill that includes a detail
of all incoming/outgoing calls.
worth noting when you get a look at the phone bill?
Check to see who receives the first call
they make (when they leave for the day), and the last call
they make before arriving home.
spouse/significant other travel? After
they leave their hotel, call the front desk/business
office/cashier a few hours later, and tell them you're the
assistant for [name of target] and that they either didn't
get/don't have/lost their bill/receipt [pick one]. "Could
you please fax a copy to our office? Here's our fax
number..." They'll never be suspicious you'll
have a chance to inspect the charges incurred. You might be
surprised at the amount of information on a hotel bill
[especially if the target has an expense account]: Room
service, in-room movies, mini-bar and [drum roll, please] a
detail of the phone numbers called. (Have fun...!)
new underwear? Scents
and style are always two big warning flags that something's
going on. She's wearing new perfume? He's wearing new after
shave? New boxers [if they wore briefs]? New briefs [if they
wore boxers]? New
thigh-highs? Garters? Underwear? Lacy bras? Bustiers?
New romance almost always triggers new purchases in these
areas. Believe it.
Spending hours on end surfing
the Internet? If your
spouse/significant other is practically obsessive-compulsive
about checking their e-mail, there's probably more than just
business e-mails they're looking for. There's some pretty
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more signs that you might not be crazy after
They subtly start asking about your schedule more
often than usual
Mileage on their car is higher (or lower) than
it should be
Clothes smell unusual or have stains
- The Quick Click: Frantic mouse clicking when you
enter the room
- The strong desire for privacy when they're on-Line
- Purchase of a phone calling card
- Signing up to multiple web-based email services
- They start exercising and become more concerned
about their looks
- Callers hang-up when you answer the phone
- They suddenly want a digital camera or scanner
- Show a lack of attention/affection towards you
- Their computer seems to become more important than
the family/your relationship
- They becomes secretive with their cell phone calls
- Check out their cell phone bills and look for long
incoming calls at odd hours
- He acquires a prescription for Viagra/Levitra/etc.
- They acquire a pager/become secretive about their
- Unexplained payments start showing up on bank
- Gas credit cards may contain uncommon locations of
- They suddenly beg to do their own laundry
- They become "unavailable" at work
get a copy of a phone bill? A credit card statement? Run a
license plate? Get
some background on someone...perhaps outside of conventional
channels? Then you need to find an information broker.
Don't ask/don't tell: They name a
price, you pay...they get you what you need.
Illegal? Perish the thought. Effective
in the world of personal intelligence?
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Is your spouse spending a
bunch of time on-line? Oh sure, I know.
"Research" or some other lame excuse. There's a good chance
they're engaging in activities that (experts agree) lead to
extramarital affairs. Too many stories and too much
evidence in this cyber-area folks.
Click here and see if any of these "Cyber Infidelity"
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Spouses and ex-spouses.
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This type of information is invaluable to innocent spouses
being rudely jolted into the spending reality that's been
going on behind their backs. If you think your spouse might
be less-than-faithful or even planning to divorce you in the
credit report activity is always one of the earliest signs that's ignored or not even recognized by soon-to-be-ex-spouses (or their attorneys). Cut 'em off at the knees and start monitoring your credit reports immediately!!!